The Energy of Connection : Part III
As we continue to wind our way up the chakra system, moving through the energies of security and creativity, it’s time to focus on the 3rd chakra, Manipura. This chakra is responsible for the energy of power. And as we explore what power means and how to bring it into focus in our own lives, we get to explore the trinity of power – power of divine, personal power (power over self) and power over others.
Power is: the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of self or others or the course of events.
Our third chakra can in many ways relate to our toddler phase- the need to prove one’s separate identity, the need to say ‘I do it myself!’ and the need to create cause and effect in order to help find one’s place in the working order of things. Without the balance of security, and the ability to safely and creatively explore the universe around you, our third chakras can easily become deeply out of whack.
When we are not allowed or encouraged to experience natural consequences, our false sense of esteem (ego) grows, while our true sense of worth (value) is decreased, as we are not able to prove our strength and perseverance through adversity.
When we learn to manipulate others to get events, either by triggering their insecurities or by using the carrot and stick technique, we create a layer or separateness that can take years to sort out. When we manipulate others, we do not have to learn to speak clearly and articulately for ourselves, to take ownership for our actions, and to follow through with the consequences of our choices.
Currently, we see so many people who are physically obese around the midsection, often called a ‘spare tire.’ This is symbolic of the several issues regarding the third chakra – first of all, it’s a message that we are out of control. It’s a message that we have resisted stepping into our power, and are willing to hand it away, or be passive about our passions. It’s indicative of low energy, depression, difficulty solving problems, and unresolved anger.
Clearly, we can’t box it up at tidily as that, but it is most often and representation of missed opportunities to become the person that we are meant to be, due to fear. I know, I’m like a broken record right now. It really does all boil down to fear – fear that we won’t be good enough being the person that we are absolutely meant to be and are supported in being. When we fear our failure, we create our failure, and often to cover that up, we create long stories about our families, parents, sibling lineup, class structure, financial background, and birth order. When we lean into these stories, we give our power away for free.
When this chakra is balanced, we feel sure footed, trust our intuition, feel confident standing up for ourselves and our ideas, implement ideas, have follow through, and trust that we can ask for what we need and be heard. Doesn’t that sound fantastic?
There is a saying that “Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” Lao Tzu
Imagine trusting yourself implicitly, to have clean and clear motives, to bring confidence into all of your endeavors, and to find joy in knowing yourself.
One of the best ways to quickly connect with and balance this chakra is to do belly breathing. Sit comfortably, with arms and legs uncrossed. Begin to breathe in deeply through your nose, imagining that you are pulling the breath all the way down to the pubic bone. When you have inhaled as much as possible, hold the breath in, and begin to pump the stomach in and out. Do this for as long as possible, without getting faint or lightheaded. Exhale smoothly, inhale, and repeat for 2-3 minutes.
And, as always, if you have further questions or comments, you can always e-mail me for a personal response, or to book an in person or distance session.