Energy of Connection Part 2


When asked to think about the meaning of connection, as I wrote about last week, what we are really thinking about and creating is a bond, as well as a sense of place.

Our sense of place can vary greatly, but we all want a place where, deep in our hearts we hear the welcoming sounds of “Take your shoes off, let your hair down, stay awhile. It doesn’t matter if you show up rich or poor, wise or foolish, broken or whole.   You have a place at our table, and we have been waiting for you.”

This is the sense of community and place that many churches and temples and spiritual communities are trying to foster- this sense that when you come to us, even if you are broken, you are whole.

This is the energy that is most vulnerable and strongly represented by our first chakra.   Our first chakra is located at the base of the spine, right at the tip of the tail bone, and is associated with instinct, safety, survival, grounding, family, security, boundaries and new beginnings.   The physical body parts associated with this charka are the coccyx, anus, large intestine, adrenal glands, back, lets, feet, and bones.

Your root chakra is where you store the majority of your early programing.   The messages that you received by observing the behavior and reactions of the people and the world around you have created a perception about the world that you then carry out through your vibrations into reality. Many of us have received healthy and balanced messages, and feel that we have a place in the world, can move forward with confidence, and trust the ground beneath us. For those who have experienced other more negative and fear-based programing, here is some information.

In my work with healing, I notice two distinct patterns that are emerging. Regardless of the messages that create these beliefs, many people are walking around with one of these untrue core beliefs: “I am invisible” or “I take up too much room”.

If your core belief is ‘I am invisible’, then it is very hard to get your needs met, because you don’t even know what your needs are. It is difficult to speak up for yourself, because you are constantly using outside information or facts to try justifying your feelings, and sometimes your very existence.   People with this belief system are often ‘doers’ who don’t feel that they deserve to just exist, they feel that people will only love and value them when they are performing acts of worthy service.   This can be exhausting. They carry around the burden of not being able to accept love, because they feel undeserving.

The second belief is ‘I take up too much room.’ This if for people who don’t believe that their needs can ever be met, because they were raised in a family of lack, and their needs were seen a criticism or unreasonable demands on family resources, be they financial, emotional or spiritual.   People who hear this message either go big (think Madonna or Elton John) or small. And even though they know what they want, they believe that acting like a martyr is the surest and quickest way to show love. They consistently subvert their needs in order to show that they are willing to be team players, and in this way cause anxiety, resentment, depression, and a lack of intimacy.

The good news is, change is already happening.   Once again, all you have to do is allow the shift that exists inside of you to happen, and all of this energy wants to be balanced and return to neutral.

1.Sit comfortably in a chair or on the floor, with your sit bones firmly planted.

2.Breathe in through your nose, and exhale through your mouth.

3.As you breath, allow your muscles to soften, and to experience that the ground beneath you is holding you steady and sure.

4.Speak to your fear and anxiety like a small child, with love and compassion.

Thank your fears for keeping you safe, because that is really all they have tried to do for you – they have tried to keep you in boundaries that minimize pain.

5.Picture your fears like fierce little children, who have been dressed up with war paint and wooden swords and suction cup bows and arrows, but whose intensity and sincerity in protecting you rivals the fiercest of seasoned warriors.

6.Thank those children, and feed them, and send them to bed. Let them go home. Let them know you don’t need them to stand guard for you any more, fragile and exhausted, that you are ready to embrace divine energy to protect and love yourself.

7. Allow divine love to flow over and through you and carry away any negative, toxic or tired energy.

Repeat as often as necessary.

Take care my loves, and remember, you can always follow up with me at if you have further questions.




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